Be the one to save a life – September is Suicide Prevention Month

In the time it will take you to read this newspaper, one person will have died by suicide. Across the nation and North Dakota, suicide cuts across all ages, demographics and socioeconomic groups. In 2016, 134 North Dakota residents died by suicide. A recent report released by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) stated that suicide death rates have increased across the nation from 1999 to 2016. North Dakota has experienced the largest suicide rate increase within that time frame, with rates increasing 58 percent.

Posted 9/26/19

This makes North Dakota’s suicide rate higher than the national average with 144 lives lost in 2018. Suicide is the second leading cause of death for North Dakotans ages 10-34 making it a serious public health and work force issue. Between January to August of 2019, 8,830 suicide-related calls were placed to First Link of North Dakota.

Mental illness is more common than you might think. Across North Dakota’s approximately 600,000 residents, close to 24,000 adults live with serious mental illness and about 6,000 children live with serious mental health conditions. North Dakota’s public mental health system provides services to only 29 percent of adults who live with serious mental illnesses in the state. This makes meeting the challenge of treating those with mental illness even harder as the public health services are inadequate to meet the demand. Untreated mental illness can have deadly and costly consequences.

For every one life lost to suicide, at least 25 people attempt it. Over 90 percent of individuals who die from suicide have at least one mental illness. Statewide, there is one life lost to suicide every 64 hours. Depression and suicidal ideation is not a normal part of aging either. For some older adults, physical or emotional pain prevents them from finding fulfillment in their everyday lives. If their pain is not addressed, they may attempt suicide. Older adults are less likely to act on suicidal thoughts impulsively; therefore, there may be more time to notice warning signs of suicide and intervene.

Most people who struggle with thoughts of suicide ask for help and get better– but help and hope begins with talking about it. Suicide does not have one single cause, but certain factors like substance abuse and untreated depression can lead to higher risk of suicide just as having a trusted group of friends can help protect you. It is possible that a family member or neighbor is in need of help but doesn’t know where to turn. It is important to be observant, both for yourself and those around you. Changes in a person’s mental health status don’t typically happen overnight, and there are almost always early signs of trouble. Here are a few to look for:

• Feeling anxious or worried

• Emotional outbursts

• Problems sleeping

• Dramatic changes in weight or appetite

• Isolation

• Feelings of failure

If you are concerned about someone, make note of the signs you see in him or her. Pay special attention to signs of suicidal intent or thinking. Some of those signs include:

• A change in routine or behavior. Stress decreases our ability to cope.

• An increase in illness, such as chronic headaches, ulcers, backaches, eating irregularities, sleeping disturbances, frequent sickness or exhaustion

• A change of appearance, both in a person and his or her operation

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline #BeThe1To has created five action steps for communicating with someone who may be suicidal and are supported by evidence in the field of suicide prevention. You could be the one to save a life by following these steps.


How – Asking the question “Are you thinking about suicide?” communicates that you’re open to speaking about suicide in a non-judgmental and supportive way. Asking in this direct, unbiased manner can open the door for effective dialogue about their emotional pain and can allow everyone involved to see what next steps need to be taken. Other questions you can ask include, “How do you hurt?” and “How can I help?” Do not ever promise to keep their thoughts of suicide a secret.

The flip side of the “Ask” step is to “Listen.” Make sure you take their answers seriously and not to ignore them, especially if they indicate they are experiencing thoughts of suicide. Listening to their reasons for being in such emotional pain, as well as listening for any potential reasons they want to continue to stay alive, are both incredibly important when they are telling you what’s going on. Help them focus on their reasons for living and avoid trying to impose your reasons for them to stay alive.

Why – Studies show that asking at-risk individuals if they are suicidal does not increase suicides or suicidal thoughts. In fact, studies suggest the opposite: acknowledging and talking about suicide may in fact reduce, rather than increase, suicidal ideation.


How – First of all, it’s good for everyone to be on the same page. After the “Ask” step, and you’ve determined suicide is indeed being talked about, it’s important to find out a few things to establish immediate safety. Have they already done anything to try to kill themselves before talking with you? Does the person experiencing thoughts of suicide know how they would kill themselves? Do they have a specific, detailed plan? What’s the timing for their plan? What sort of access to do they have to their planned method?

Why – Knowing the answers to each of these questions can tell us a lot about the imminence and severity of danger the person is in. For instance, the more steps and pieces of a plan that are in place, the higher their severity of risk and their capability to enact their plan might be. Or if they have immediate access to a firearm and are very serious about attempting suicide, then extra steps (like calling the authorities or driving them to an emergency department) might be necessary. The Lifeline can always act as a resource during these moments as well if you aren’t entirely sure what to do next.

The Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public Health notes that reducing a suicidal person’s access to highly lethal means (or chosen method for a suicide attempt) is an important part of suicide prevention. A number of studies have indicated that when lethal means are made less available or less deadly, suicide rates by that method decline, and frequently suicide rates overall decline. Research also shows that “method substitution” or choosing an alternate method when the original method is restricted, frequently does not happen. The myth “If someone really wants to kill themselves, they’ll find a way to do it” often does not hold true if appropriate safety measures are put into place. The Keep Them Safe step is really about showing support for someone during the times when they have thoughts of suicide by putting time and distance between the person and their chosen method, especially methods that have shown higher lethality (like firearms and medications).


How – This could mean being physically present for someone, speaking with them on the phone when you can, or any other way that shows support for the person at risk. An important aspect of this step is to make sure you follow through with the ways in which you say you’ll be able to support the person – be the one to be there do not commit to anything you are not willing or able to accomplish. If you are unable to be physically present with someone with thoughts of suicide, talk with them to develop some ideas for others who might be able to help as well (again, only others who are willing, able, and appropriate to be there). Listening is, again, very important during this step – find out what and who they believe will be the most effective sources of help.

Why – Being there for someone with thoughts of suicide is life-saving. Increasing someone’s connectedness to others and limiting their isolation (both in the short and long-term) has shown to be a protective factor against suicide. Thomas Joiner’s Interpersonal-Psychological Theory of Suicide highlights connectedness as one of its main components – specifically, a low sense of belonging. When someone experiences this state, paired with perceived burdonsomeness (arguably tied to “connectedness” through isolating behaviors and lack of a sense of purpose) and acquired capability (a lowered fear of death and habituated experiences of violence), their risk can become severely elevated.

In the Three-Step Theory (or more commonly known as the Ideation-to-Action Framework), David Klonsky and Alexis May also theorize that “connectedness” is a key protective factor, not only against suicide as a whole, but in terms of the escalation of thoughts of suicide to action. Their research has also shown connectedness acts as a buffer against hopelessness and psychological pain.

By “being there,” we have a chance to alleviate or eliminate some of these significant factors.


How – Helping someone with thoughts of suicide connect with ongoing supports (like the Lifeline, 800-273-8255) can help them establish a safety net for those moments they find themselves in a crisis. Additional components of a safety net might be connecting them with supports and resources in their communities. Explore some of these possible supports with them – are they currently seeing a mental health professional? Have they in the past? Is this an option for them currently? Are there other mental health resources in the community that can effectively help?

One way to start helping them find ways to connect is to work with them to develop a safety plan. This can include ways for them to identify if they start to experience significant, severe thoughts of suicide along with what to do in those crisis moments. A safety plan can also include a list of individuals to contact when a crisis occurs. The My3 app is a safety planning and crisis intervention app that can help develop these supports and is stored conveniently on your smart phone for quick access.

Why – Impact of Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training on the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline found that individuals that called the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline were significantly more likely to feel less depressed, less suicidal, less overwhelmed, and more hopeful by the end of calls handled by Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training-trained counselors. These improvements were linked to ASIST-related counselor interventions, including listening without judgment, exploring reasons for living and creating a network of support.


How – After your initial contact with a person experiencing thoughts of suicide and after you’ve connected them with the immediate support systems they need, make sure to follow-up with them to see how they’re doing. Leave a message, send a text, or give them a call. The follow-up step is a great way to check in with them to see if there is more you are capable of helping with or if there are things you’ve said you would do and haven’t yet had the chance to get done for the person.

Why – This type of contact can continue to increase their feelings of connectedness and share your ongoing support. There is evidence that even a simple form of reaching out, like sending a caring postcard, can potentially reduce their risk for suicide.

Studies have shown a reduction in the number of deaths by suicide when following up was involved with high risk populations after they were discharge from acute care services. Studies have also shown that brief, low-cost intervention and supportive, ongoing contact may be an important part of suicide prevention. Please visit our Follow-Up Matters page for more.

If you recognize signs of depression and suicidal thinking in a family member, friend or yourself, call for help. If you suspect someone may be depressed and suicidal, get help:

Mental Health America of North Dakota – (701) 255-3692

North Dakota Help line – (800) 472-2911

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline – (800) 273-8255

Farm Resource Center – (800) 851-4719

FirstLink Hotline – 2-1-1 or (701) 235-7335

Information for this article was sourced from National Suicide Prevention Lifeline #BeThe1To, AgCountry Credit Union’s Mental Health Resources for Farmers, FirstLink, CDC, and the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention.

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